Nursing home abandonment

[GROWLER]

Mrs G has a patient that she regulary goes to see, and has been doing so for the past 3 or 4 years now.
Think he had a stroke and has become permenently disabled.

Anyway, he's been shoved into this nursing home and has been virtualy abandoned by his wife it seems.
She rarely visits, and seemingly has new friends and new social activities to attend.
Found him the cheapest home she could apparently....still £400pw mind.

The poor old guy rings here regulary,mainly just to complain and  obviously very unhappy with the treatment he receives both from his missus, or lack of it, and the way the staff in there appear to just ignore him when he rings the buzzer for attention.
Don't know much beyond that, as patient confidentiality has to be observed.

I do worry and feel very sorry for the guy though.
What an absolute totally SHIT exsistance it must be for him.

I've instructed this shower to lob me in a weighted sack, hire a boat, and take me out into the Irish sea if I ever require nursing home care.

[Barman]

Mrs G has a patient that she regulary goes to see, and has been doing so for the past 3 or 4 years now.
Think he had a stroke and has become permenently disabled.

Anyway, he's been shoved into this nursing home and has been virtualy abandoned by his wife it seems.
She rarely visits, and seemingly has new friends and new social activities to attend.
Found him the cheapest home she could apparently....still £400pw mind.

The poor old guy rings here regulary,mainly just to complain and  obviously very unhappy with the treatment he receives both from his missus, or lack of it, and the way the staff in there appear to just ignore him when he rings the buzzer for attention.
Don't know much beyond that, as patient confidentiality has to be observed.

I do worry and feel very sorry for the guy though.
What an absolute totally SHIT exsistance it must be for him.

I've instructed this shower to lob me in a weighted sack, hire a boat, and take me out into the Irish sea if I ever require nursing home care.

I feel the same way...

Those that nanny us to live 'healthy' lifestyles to extend our lives rarely mention that we are likely to spend those last extra years suffering from dementia while lying in your own piss and shite....

Enjoy it while you can I say... 

[GROWLER]

Mrs G has a patient that she regulary goes to see, and has been doing so for the past 3 or 4 years now.
Think he had a stroke and has become permenently disabled.

Anyway, he's been shoved into this nursing home and has been virtualy abandoned by his wife it seems.
She rarely visits, and seemingly has new friends and new social activities to attend.
Found him the cheapest home she could apparently....still £400pw mind.

The poor old guy rings here regulary,mainly just to complain and  obviously very unhappy with the treatment he receives both from his missus, or lack of it, and the way the staff in there appear to just ignore him when he rings the buzzer for attention.
Don't know much beyond that, as patient confidentiality has to be observed.

I do worry and feel very sorry for the guy though.
What an absolute totally SHIT exsistance it must be for him.

I've instructed this shower to lob me in a weighted sack, hire a boat, and take me out into the Irish sea if I ever require nursing home care.

I feel the same way...

Those that nanny us to live 'healthy' lifestyles to extend our lives rarely mention that we are likely to spend those last extra years suffering from dementia while lying in your own piss and shite....

Enjoy it while you can I say... 

It does actually frighten and scare the shit out of me tbh.
Being locked an a home would not be an option for me, but if you are mentally incapable of resisting, wtf do you do?
THAT'S the bit that frightens me....the lack of abilty to resist.

this should be in 'The Commons' really, as it is a great and serious concern for many.

[Barman]

Moved! 

[Darwins Selection]

There are several layers to this:

1. It is very sad to see someone abandoned by their family and bundled off like that under any circumstances.

2. This chap sounds as if he is far from being unable to speak for himself and is not at all happy about his situation, unlike many who are just vegetables and a home is a cheaper place to keep them breathing for a while longer.
Unless he has been sectioned or compelled to go in the home by legal means, he can demand to return to his own home and receive care there I believe. His wife may not like it, but this is one of those cases where his 'rights' prevail.

3. I dread the idea of being in a state where I am mentally aware but physically locked in, as I think many of us do. It is a minefield, but I would vote for euthanasia to get me out of that situation without any hesitation.

If Mrs G really feels that he is stuck in there against his will and would like to be at home, why doesn't she have a word with social services on the QT?

[Barman]

There are several layers to this:

1. It is very sad to see someone abandoned by their family and bundled off like that under any circumstances.

2. This chap sounds as if he is far from being unable to speak for himself and is not at all happy about his situation, unlike many who are just vegetables and a home is a cheaper place to keep them breathing for a while longer.
Unless he has been sectioned or compelled to go in the home by legal means, he can demand to return to his own home and receive care there I believe. His wife may not like it, but this is one of those cases where his 'rights' prevail.

3. I dread the idea of being in a state where I am mentally aware but physically locked in, as I think many of us do. It is a minefield, but I would vote for euthanasia to get me out of that situation without any hesitation.

If Mrs G really feels that he is stuck in there against his will and would like to be at home, why doesn't she have a word with social services on the QT?

Good post!

Mirrors my own thoughts exactly...

[GROWLER]

Excellent post DS.
Trouble with Mrs G is that she (perhaps understandably) doesn't like to diiscuss her patients with me, and if I mention her going to social Services, she'd probably tell me to mind my own business.

I speak to the guy sometimes, as he's always ringing here asking to speak to Mrs G, but he is extremely hesitant with slurred speech, so it's virtually impossible for me to have a conversation with him, and also I daren't discuss what I know because of patient confidentiality, not that I really know that much tbqh.

I just feel for the guy as he sounds so unhappy, and would absolutely hate to be in his seemingly crap situation.

[Darwins Selection]

I just feel for the guy as he sounds so unhappy, and would absolutely hate to be in his seemingly crap situation.

Amen to that