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Title: Female psychology: help required
Post by: Nick on May 20, 2011, 11:55:13 AM
An envelope arrives from Mrs Nick.

It contains the Order of Service for our wedding.

Any offers?
Title: Re: Female psychology: help required
Post by: Baldy on May 20, 2011, 11:57:00 AM
BM has a shotgun.
Title: Re: Female psychology: help required
Post by: Snoopy on May 20, 2011, 11:57:26 AM
I'd suggest you send, by return, a canvas jacket with extra long arms and lots of leather straps.  whacky115
Title: Re: Female psychology: help required
Post by: Miss Demeanour on May 20, 2011, 11:58:58 AM
Is it your anniversary soon ???
Title: Re: Female psychology: help required
Post by: Nick on May 20, 2011, 12:01:42 PM
Is it your anniversary soon ???

Nope
Title: Re: Female psychology: help required
Post by: Snoopy on May 20, 2011, 12:03:37 PM
I just took the question to SWWLTBO ~ she asked the same question as Miss D.

In her opinion it is "Weird" but she is sure there is a message there somewhere tho' she has no idea what it may be.
Title: Re: Female psychology: help required
Post by: Barman on May 20, 2011, 12:04:24 PM
Shrugs:

She might have sprinkles some of that poison powder in it like...  scared2:
Title: Re: Female psychology: help required
Post by: Snoopy on May 20, 2011, 12:07:49 PM
Nah! I reckon that, to her thinking, it is a reminder to you of vows taken. It may even be her way of saying "It's over" like.

Whatever ~ she obviously expects you to understand what she means ..... which given your track record of understanding her ..... is a pretty long shot.
Title: Re: Female psychology: help required
Post by: Nick on May 20, 2011, 12:09:01 PM
 Shrugs:
Title: Re: Female psychology: help required
Post by: Miss Demeanour on May 20, 2011, 12:09:32 PM
She is reminding him that he swore in front of GOD that he would be with her for ever and ever and ever like  ::)
Title: Re: Female psychology: help required
Post by: Snoopy on May 20, 2011, 12:10:22 PM
She is reminding him that he swore in front of GOD that he would be with her for ever and ever and ever like  ::)

That's wot I said like.  Banghead
Title: Re: Female psychology: help required
Post by: Miss Demeanour on May 20, 2011, 12:11:13 PM
No  - you said she thinks it's over ...I said she thinks it will never be over  whistle:
Title: Re: Female psychology: help required
Post by: Nick on May 20, 2011, 12:12:02 PM
[serious] And she promised to look after me in sickness and in health but was nowhere to be seen when I had a nervous breakdown [serious]
Title: Re: Female psychology: help required
Post by: Nick on May 20, 2011, 12:12:52 PM
No  - you said she thinks it's over ...I said she thinks it will never be over  whistle:

Well she is a Catholic
Title: Re: Female psychology: help required
Post by: Snoopy on May 20, 2011, 12:13:47 PM
No  - you said she thinks it's over ...I said she thinks it will never be over  whistle:

Read wot I said again like. razz:

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Nah! I reckon that, to her thinking, it is a reminder to you of vows taken.
Title: Re: Female psychology: help required
Post by: Snoopy on May 20, 2011, 12:17:12 PM
No  - you said she thinks it's over ...I said she thinks it will never be over  whistle:

Well she is a Catholic


I had that fact in mind ..... well no divorce means no maintenance  whistle:

Still doesn't mean you have to live with her.
Title: Re: Female psychology: help required
Post by: Nick on May 20, 2011, 12:18:27 PM
No  - you said she thinks it's over ...I said she thinks it will never be over  whistle:

Well she is a Catholic


I had that fact in mind ..... well no divorce means no maintenance  whistle:

Still doesn't mean you have to live with her.

The envelope also contained a bill, now paid
Title: Re: Female psychology: help required
Post by: Snoopy on May 20, 2011, 12:18:58 PM
No  - you said she thinks it's over ...I said she thinks it will never be over  whistle:

Well she is a Catholic


I had that fact in mind ..... well no divorce means no maintenance  whistle:

Still doesn't mean you have to live with her.

The envelope also contained a bill, now paid


Not for the wedding I trust  ;)
Title: Re: Female psychology: help required
Post by: Miss Demeanour on May 20, 2011, 12:22:37 PM
Do you not think she is feeling a little sad and reflective ?

Given that you and Mrs Nick have extreme difficultly discussing any issues maybe she was just simply trying to say I miss you.

Of course it could be much more sinister and she has had a word with the man upstairs in Cloud Central Station and  he has confirmed he is to  send you to purgatory because of your sins  ::) - but I prefer my option  lol:
Title: Re: Female psychology: help required
Post by: Nick on May 20, 2011, 12:24:25 PM
I think you may be right Miss D
Title: Re: Female psychology: help required
Post by: Snoopy on May 20, 2011, 12:33:26 PM
Do you not think she is feeling a little sad and reflective ?


That sounds familiar.

My ex, who did the leaving, got like that once I had sorted my life out and tried all sorts to get back.
I had agreed the first time and stuck to it for another 5 years but then she ran off anyway. She tried the same routine again but there was no way I was going though it all again. As I recall it went "I'm going" .... then after six months "I'm coming back" .... to which I said "You do and I'm going"  .... then there was a couple of years of using the kids, bills she couldn't or wouldn't pay, love notes reminding me of "Times we had together" interspersed with vitriolic notes about what a b@st@rd I was etc etc.. Finally she sent the kids to live with me as they were getting in the way of her love life and married someone else. Now, 22 years later, we exchange cards at Christmas.
Title: Re: Female psychology: help required
Post by: Darwins Selection on May 20, 2011, 01:07:38 PM
[serious] And she promised to look after me in sickness and in health but was nowhere to be seen when I had a nervous breakdown [serious]

That isn't sickness, it's a genetic predisposition.

Does Purgatory have any pubs by the way?
Title: Re: Female psychology: help required
Post by: Nick on May 20, 2011, 01:09:45 PM
Dunno. I recall a lot of praying and masses and stuff after my FiL died. And then they deffo abolished limbo, but not before we had to get some bastard priest in to baptise my dead daughter.

This is getting a bit dark
Title: Re: Female psychology: help required
Post by: Darwins Selection on May 20, 2011, 01:12:58 PM
Dunno. I recall a lot of praying and masses and stuff after my FiL died. And then they deffo abolished limbo, but not before we had to get some bastard priest in to baptise my dead daughter.

This is getting a bit dark

As is the way of things with the deeper mind.

Resign yourself to being a loveable clown and ignore it all.

Title: Re: Female psychology: help required
Post by: beerhead on May 20, 2011, 01:44:43 PM
Well said, DS.

My father died this morning and I am not in the mood for pseudo religious chicanery and Catholic guilt trips. Best of luck Nick.
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Post by: apc2010 on May 20, 2011, 01:47:46 PM
Well said, DS.

My father died this morning and I am not in the mood for pseudo religious chicanery and Catholic guilt trips. Best of luck Nick.

Sorry to hear ..........
Title: Re: Female psychology: help required
Post by: Nick on May 20, 2011, 01:51:47 PM
Well said, DS.

My father died this morning and I am not in the mood for pseudo religious chicanery and Catholic guilt trips. Best of luck Nick.

Oh dear, sorry to hear that  happy100
Title: Re: Female psychology: help required
Post by: Miss Demeanour on May 20, 2011, 02:02:16 PM
Scattering my mum's ashes tomorrow ...it would have been her birthday.

 cry:
Title: Re: Female psychology: help required
Post by: Miss Demeanour on May 20, 2011, 02:03:32 PM
Well said, DS.

My father died this morning and I am not in the mood for pseudo religious chicanery and Catholic guilt trips. Best of luck Nick.

 happy100

I'm buying
Title: Re: Female psychology: help required
Post by: Nick on May 20, 2011, 02:08:20 PM
Scattering my mum's ashes tomorrow ...it would have been her birthday.

 cry:
happy100


My mum wanted her ashes scattered but forgot to say where. We put them under the tree in Bradgate Park where she got pregnant before she got married  redface:
Title: Re: Female psychology: help required
Post by: The Moan Ranger on May 20, 2011, 02:39:22 PM
Sorry to hear that, beerhead.
Title: Re: Female psychology: help required
Post by: Snoopy on May 20, 2011, 02:45:12 PM
Sorry to hear that Beerhead.

Nick ~ Wot DS said. You gotta just laugh it off... Difficult I know but it really is the only way.


Miss D ~ No laughing matter I know. I found it very hard. My thoughts are with you.

For what it is worth My FiL's ashes remain unscattered three years following his death. My BiL has them in an urn next to an identical urn containing the ashes of his partner's much loved dog that died a few weeks before the FiL (who hated dogs with a passion). BiL will not agree to scatter the ashes of his father as he is now unsure which urn contains Father and which the bloody dog.
Title: Re: Female psychology: help required
Post by: Miss Demeanour on May 20, 2011, 03:01:30 PM
Mum wants her in two places ...typical wumman eh  lol:

One by this stream / ford where she used to play with her grandkids. The other high up on the Quantocks overlooking the valley ....a beautiful place  cloud9:
Title: Re: Female psychology: help required
Post by: Nick on May 20, 2011, 03:08:17 PM
Do it. Cry. Then go for a good lunch and celebrate. It will be a growing up thing for teh Brat too
Title: Re: Female psychology: help required
Post by: Barman on May 20, 2011, 03:23:49 PM
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BXkpZ1AZM2M

 redface:
Title: Re: Female psychology: help required
Post by: Miss Demeanour on May 20, 2011, 03:41:52 PM
Do it. Cry. Then go for a good lunch and celebrate. It will be a growing up thing for teh Brat too
She is not going ....just me & my brothers and SIL's.
But yes, a nice meal is planned for the evening , where I believe I may consume one, possibly two drinks
Title: Re: Female psychology: help required
Post by: Nick on May 20, 2011, 03:47:51 PM
 happy100
Title: Re: Female psychology: help required
Post by: Darwins Selection on May 20, 2011, 05:03:21 PM
Well said, DS.

My father died this morning and I am not in the mood for pseudo religious chicanery and Catholic guilt trips. Best of luck Nick.

Sorry to hear that Beerhead. Keep your chin up.
Title: Re: Female psychology: help required
Post by: Pastis on May 20, 2011, 05:21:49 PM
A sombre day for some and sorry to hear it. Condolences and sympathies all round   happy100
Title: Re: Female psychology: help required
Post by: Just One More on May 21, 2011, 06:17:16 AM
Sorry to hear your news Beerhead

Mum will be looking down and smiling on you Miss D
Title: Re: Female psychology: help required
Post by: Miss Creant Commander of the picklement and baking BAb(Hons) on May 21, 2011, 07:36:40 AM
Sympathy to you beer head. happy100

Miss D a tough one for you.  happy100

My parents were separated but not divorced when my father died he wanted to be cremated, a fact which we all knew. My mother buried him. noooo:
Title: Re: Female psychology: help required
Post by: Barman on May 21, 2011, 07:44:41 AM
Sympathy to you beer head. happy100

Miss D a tough one for you.  happy100

My parents were separated but not divorced when my father died he wanted to be cremated, a fact which we all knew. My mother buried him. noooo:

At least she waited until he died...
Title: Re: Female psychology: help required
Post by: beerhead on May 21, 2011, 08:08:57 AM
Thanks everyone. Your condolences help.
 We will be scattering ashes at Pilsdon Pen.
Title: Re: Female psychology: help required
Post by: Miss Creant Commander of the picklement and baking BAb(Hons) on May 21, 2011, 08:56:14 AM
Sympathy to you beer head. happy100

Miss D a tough one for you.  happy100

My parents were separated but not divorced when my father died he wanted to be cremated, a fact which we all knew. My mother buried him. noooo:

At least she waited until he died...

Fair point well made. ;D

Beerhead Pilsdon Pen is a lovely place to be.

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