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Come Inside... => Saloon Bar => Topic started by: GROWLER on April 22, 2010, 08:39:58 AM
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Mrs g's driving ability is crap, but more concerning is the fact that every time she has an 'incident', of which there have been many over the years, she fails to tell me, hoping that this 'fanatical about keeping the car tidy and straight, with eyes like a shit 'ouse rat' won't notice. Banghead
She's managed to bash young G jnrs car again this week, against a low down post, creasing the door.
I noticed it immidiately as young G drove back onto the path from college last night.
He already knew as she'd told him, but asked him NOT to tell me as she knew I'd kick off.
Well what TF do you expect me to do ey? Send you a bunch of flowers and congratulatory card celebrating the fact that you've done more damage to MY car for the 5 th time in 12 months? eeek:
Yes, I ranted at her, not so much for the fact that she's caused mire uneccessary expense to the already stretched household budget, only that's bad enough,but more about this seemingly cynical and devious trend of hers in keeping secrets from me, and encouraging the kids to keep schtum too.
Her best freind backed into my pride and joy 4 years ago, and damged the bottom of the rear bumper, low down.
I didn't actually notice the damge until I was polishing the car several weeks later.
Mrs G was out, but young G jnr heard me hollering about the damage when I discovered it.
"I'm not supposed to tell you but I know how it happened" he said.
To save getting him into trouble, I've said nowt....until last night. Explode:
Marriage/trust/no secrets/honesty?
What other skeletons are lurking I wonder?
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So would you say that you tell Mrs G absolutely everything then ...even when you know she will go ballisitic rubschin:
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So would you say that you tell Mrs G absolutely everything then ...even when you know she will go ballisitic rubschin:
I've nothing to hide. I actually lead a quite boring hum drum life.
So you think it's ok to keep these things secret then do you, even though it's quite obvious I'll find out eventually?
Beggars belief....IMO. ::)
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I didn't say that now Bear ....don't you be putting them there words in my mouth.
It makes little sense to try and hide something like this unless she would be able to repair the damage before you had chance to see. Far better in these circumstances to just own up and say what had happened and I'm sure you would have been far more understanding if that was the case rubschin:
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Perhaps if you didn't 'kick off' so badly she might be more inclined to tell you. It's only the occasional dent FFS!
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I picked out the bit you put in bold
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I picked out the bit you put in bold
Cherry picking. ::)
I wrote in bold to highlight what she would be thinking, that's all.
You just choose to twist what I say to your own liking if that's your wish.
This is actually a rant about keeping secrets btw. ::)
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Mrs S#2 always dresses up eyes: to tell me any horror stories about damaging cars , household appliances going wrong etc.
I make her work hard for forgiveness but at least she tells me. whistle:
Something like this would indicate that she is about to tell me she has put a dent in the car
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No that is not SWWLTBO.
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You really should put those wing mirrors back on the car Snoops ;)
As for secrets ....I believe we are all selective sometimes on what we divulge to partners ..for whatever your reasons are . This can be from minor things to how much you spent on something to some pretty major stuff.
I don't believe anyone has total disclosure of absolutely everything ...but then I just may be a tad cynical rubschin:
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You really should put those wing mirrors back on the car Snoops ;)
As for secrets ....I believe we are all selective sometimes on what we divulge to partners ..for whatever your reasons are . This can be from minor things to how much you spent on something to some pretty major stuff.
I don't believe anyone has total disclosure of absolutely everything ...but then I just may be a tad cynical rubschin:
Oh we have an open marriage. Usually Her mouth and my wallet ::)
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My ex managed to dent the car twice in the period of about 6 weeks. Same carpark, same pillar, identical dent. It was at the hospital she was visiting during her pregnacy. She said because of the 'bump' she couldn't turn in the car seat when parking.
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I lie
redface:
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I lie
redface:
How do we know you are telling the truth about that...? rubschin:
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I lie
redface:
How do we know you are telling the truth about that...? rubschin:
Cos my eye isn't twitching ;D
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I lie
redface:
How do we know you are telling the truth about that...? rubschin:
Cos my eye isn't twitching ;D
How do we know you are telling the truth about that...? rubschin:
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Mrs Growler arrives home
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P2qzjdH46gY (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P2qzjdH46gY)
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I lie
redface:
How do we know you are telling the truth about that...? rubschin:
Cos my eye isn't twitching ;D
How do we know you are telling the truth about that...? rubschin:
You don't
fnah fnah
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lol: lol: lol:
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So that is her then? angel1
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sad32:
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This isn't a thread about her driving skills ffs, it's about withholding information from me, and getting others to support this unacceptable behaviour too.
THAT's what's pissing me right off, apart from you posting more shite in thread that actually has nothing to do with driving skills.
I'd have posted it in Petrol/Diesel heads zone if that was the case, and you could have posted more totally irrelevant crap 'n' shite on that then too couldn't you? ::)
[serious] If she expects a confrontation, justified or not, because she has bent the car, it is human nature to avoid it if she can.
She will feel isolated and vulnerable in the knowledge that you will blow a gasket and confided in the kids for support as much as anything.
If you want non-human reactions, avoid women.
Next time you feel like having a big rant over a problem, stop for a moment and think how the recipient will feel.
Save the big rant for when she kills someone or runs off with the milkman, going nuclear for a dented door leaves you little room for escalation. [/serious]
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worthy: worthy: worthy: worthy: worthy: worthy:
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Well said DS. All so very true
Alternatively buy her some eyes: lingerie ~ works for us whistle:
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Well said DS. All so very true
Alternatively buy her some eyes: lingerie ~ works for us whistle:
You and DS??? eeek:
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