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Come Inside... => The Medical Centre => Topic started by: Miss Demeanour on February 19, 2010, 08:22:19 PM
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My mum has been whisked off to hospital today ....emergency like....she has not been well for a little while but is averse to going to the doctors evil:
So I leave work early and rush home thinking I am going to have to get down to Somerset tonight. My brother rings a while ago...don't bother rushing down he says they have taken her to a hospital that has a Norovirus outbreak and so no visitors are allowed in until they have finished their deep clean and are satisfied all is well.
I can ring her on her mobile which I have been doing ...she sounds scared , in pain and alone.
Feeling helpless in these situations is the pits sad24:
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I'm sorry.... happy100
What a shite situation.... noooo:
I can understand how they close hospitals (or quarantine them) when this stuff break out, but why take a new patient to one...?
I blame that cunt Gordon Brown! cussing:
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That is my confusion.....why take her there in the first place ?
But then I am being rather emotional about this and appreciate that there aren't that many options in that area and I know she will have to have some specialist tests and stuff
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Is it a specialised horse pickle they have taken her to...?
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That is my confusion.....why take her there in the first place ?
But then I am being rather emotional about this and appreciate that there aren't that many options in that area and I know she will have to have some specialist tests and stuff
The whole hospital wil be closed because there are cases in the community and on certain wards and they are reducing the risk of spreading it to the other wards that don't have any.
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That is my confusion.....why take her there in the first place ?
But then I am being rather emotional about this and appreciate that there aren't that many options in that area and I know she will have to have some specialist tests and stuff
The whole hospital wil be closed because there are cases in the community and on certain wards and they are reducing the risk of spreading it to the other wards that don't have any.
But why take a new patient there...? Shrugs:
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Because patients needing care have to go to hospital for the specialist services. It is all about reducing the risk but providing the care. I would suggest talking to the nursing staff and explaining that you don't live near and think your Mum would benefit from a visit from you. Failing that send plenty of messages of support. It is the season for these viruses unfortunately.
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Bad luck Miss D. happy100
These things are an awful worry, I hope all goes well.
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Feel for you MD.
Horrible situtaion when your parents are getting on a bit and unwell, made so much worse when you can't actually physically see and be next to her.
I hope you can get to her very soon and give her a big hug. cloud9:
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Thanks you all - much appreciated x
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...and just how the hell do you get to Somerset without a car? Must be an absolute nightmare, and what do you do with 'the brat'? eeek:
How is she this morning anyway....your Mum, not the brat that is.?
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Spoke to her late last night but she was fairly drugged up and so hopefully she would have slept well. I have just tried to ring but it has gone to voicemail so will call again in a bit but I know she is meant to be having some further tests and stuff this morning.
As for getting down there it would have to be via the train and then getting my brother to pick me up from that end as they live out in the sticks
The Brat is at her dad's this weekend but if there is an emergency she can always go and stay with him ...he is pretty good where things like that are concerned and even offered yesterday when he picked her up.
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Spoke to her late last night but she was fairly drugged up and so hopefully she would have slept well. I have just tried to ring but it has gone to voicemail so will call again in a bit but I know she is meant to be having some further tests and stuff this morning.
As for getting down there it would have to be via the train and then getting my brother to pick me up from that end as they live out in the sticks
The Brat is at her dad's this weekend but if there is an emergency she can always go and stay with him ...he is pretty good where things like that are concerned and even offered yesterday when he picked her up.
Has its advantages staying 'friendly' with your ex then ey? ;)
Hope things pan out ok MD.
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lol: lol: lol: - believe me Growler it's taken a long time to get to this place with the ex hubby but I am glad it has
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lol: lol: lol: - believe me Growler it's taken a long time to get to this place with the ex hubby but I am glad it has
Never burn those bridges behind you ey? Never know when you may need to cross them again. noooo:
Not easy sometimes, and I rue the times that I've done just the opposite in the past. cry:
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Sorry to hear that Miss D...I was in Somerset yesterday afternoon, near Minehead and stayed overnight...If I'd have known I would have dropped some flowers in on your behalf...
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Poor Miss D noooo:
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How's things today then MD....if you want to tell us that is?
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Thanks for asking Growler
Had some tests and scans yesterday and they are going to do some more detailed scans today . Still no diagnosis as yet . Or visitors allowed.
Just calling her lots on her mobile to talk but is a bit difficult depending on when she has had her medication as she is quite drowsy.
Hopefully find out more today
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Everybody here has their fingers crossed.... ;)
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oh yes.
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Thanks for asking Growler
Had some tests and scans yesterday and they are going to do some more detailed scans today . Still no diagnosis as yet . Or visitors allowed.
Just calling her lots on her mobile to talk but is a bit difficult depending on when she has had her medication as she is quite drowsy.
Hopefully find out more today
I consider the situation you're in to be mind blowingly disgraceful tbqath.
Hope you can get in to see her soon, very soon.
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I send Miss D a virtual hug
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I send Miss D a virtual hug
The hug of doom! scared2:
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sad24:
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It would not appear to be good news....I need to speak to the consultant this afternoon
Today is utter , utter shite sad24:
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So sorry.... happy100
I knew Nick shouldn't have hugged you.... noooo:
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Don't knock it - it would be quite welcome right now
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It would not appear to be good news....I need to speak to the consultant this afternoon
Today is utter , utter shite sad24:
happy100
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Would it be possible to take your mum to Turkey with you p'raps....when she's a bit fitter and out of hossy like? rubschin:
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Dunno that I can go to Turkey now ....we shall just have to see
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Dunno that I can go to Turkey now ....we shall just have to see
Later p'raps then?
Hope the news isn't too bad this avvy.
Oh the joys of getting old ey? So much to look forward to...apparently. Shrugs:
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Miss D.
You don't know me but I did have a Mum once -I do hope that your Mum gets well as soon as possible and that you get to enjoy her company for many years to come.
Love
B.
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Thanks u
Just washing my brothers white string vest so he can go and do a Bruce Willis stylee invasive attack on the hospital and we can find someone who will talk to us Banghead
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At least it's a weekday. Most of the staff bugger off from friday lunch-time onwards, so on a saturday and sunday, it's just about impossible to find someone who can tell you anything, apart from ringing the ward to get an overnite update.
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Hosps have roolz about what they can and cannot say. Admission to A&E at a weekend is always a bugger. There will have been a "Consultant" on call but the specialists will not have seen Mother until today so no accurate diagnosis will have been attempted. Weekend care is concerned with keeping the patient comfortable and alive until Monday when the real work begins. A list of "possibles" will have been tested for, x-rays, blood tests etc so that when the big man turns up mid morning on Monday he can see the results and order whatever further tests he wants. Results from those will not be available until he does his rounds tomorrow.
Another thing is that unless Mother has told them you are her next of kin they will be very reluctant to tell you much even when they do know something.
Ringing pre 10 am will only ever get you the standard response of "A comfortable night"
Ring during the tea time slot (5 to 6pmish) when all other depts have closed for the night, doctors have completed their rounds, patients will have had their pm checks done and all answers are being readied by Sister for handover to the night shift. That's when you will get answers.
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So sorry to hear all this ... ((((((( MissD ))))))) Big Aussie hug with lots of life affirming sunshine and best wishes.
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Cheers me dears cloud9:
Might finally get some info today ....she has been moved to another ward and they have permitted my brother to go and see her this evening and to get to speak to the consultant.
However now she has been moved to another ward not able to speak to her on her mobile... Banghead
I feel exasperated
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Just by way of an update ..it is not good news on my mum.
It is the C word , and would appear to be quite advanced.
Results next week will let us know what can be done and how long we are talking.
As I said earlier this week has been awful
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That's awful ~ so sorry. happy100
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Thanks Snoops ...right now I am being practical and sensible ...later on I may be emotional ...or pissed
Forgive my mood swings right now ( more than normal anyways ;D )
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I'm so sorry to hear the news Miss D, it is awful and there's so little we can do or say. noooo:
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I know Uncle M - just thought as I started this thread I should update you all and hopefully may go some way to explaining my rantings if they are out of proportion at any time in the future
We shall see what happens - just a bit of a shock and a major reality check this week
thanks tho
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Just by way of an update ..it is not good news on my mum.
It is the C word , and would appear to be quite advanced.
Results next week will let us know what can be done and how long we are talking.
As I said earlier this week has been awful
Oh Hun I am sorry. That's a horrid phone call to get. happy100
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Like everybody else, my thoughts are with you Miss D
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Cheers guys .... it's difficult to say anything I know but just know that I appreciate being able to off load and all your kindness and well wishes. I fear it's gonna be a tough ol time coming up- bear with me and keep me laughing eh xxxxx
I am on my 3rd glass of collapso tonight ...haven't had a drink in over 3 weeks so it is all going down rather nicely. cloud9:
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I'll have one with you, been in your situation myself. Would have been good to have those here around me then. Practical is the best approach.
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So sad Miss D. I have been in exactly your position and it is not easy to handle.
The best I can offer is the knowledge that your distress is shared and in time it will all be a dull ache of memory.
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So sad Miss D. I have been in exactly your position and it is not easy to handle.
The best I can offer is the knowledge that your distress is shared and in time it will all be a dull ache of memory.
Ditto.
Never easy and you have to make sure you look after yourself as well. smile:
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How you doing MD?
No point in me saying too much about your situation tbh, as what can be said has all been said really.
Hope 'The Brat' is going to behave herself extra special, as you really don't need any additional stress now.
Keep yer chin up chick. happy088
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Today has been a bad day ...for me ...struggling a bit with it all tbh and some of the conversations with mum have been really tough today. We all seem to be handling it differently, as is human nature.
As long as it doesn't interfere with The Brat's social life she will be fine noooo: noooo: noooo:
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Today my mum has been admitted into hospital as an emergency for a complete blood and platelet transfusion.
The obstinate wumman was saying she didn't want to go back into hospital until they spelt out to her in no uncertain terms that her liver was failing and if this did not happen whatever limited time she has left would be null and void.
She rang me in a complete state.....how do you help someone who is so scared when you feel exactly the same.
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Terrible news, just tell her the doctor's know best. They may not,but recent experience tells me it's the best course of action.
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So sorry Miss D. You have to treat people in that situation like confused children. Very hard, but they are not rational.
You have to be strong and sensible for her and use any persuasion to have her take treatment.
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No words can express how you are feeling...and no words can express how much we feel for you at this time...keep your chin up and do your best. It isn't easy...
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Poor Miss D happy100
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Thoughts are with you MissD happy100, and have been through a very similar situation. The clinical information that was forthcoming seemed cold and heartless when all the time what one really needs is buckets of love, support and understanding.
Have a big hug ... ((((( MissD )))))
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Coming to this one a bit late Miss D, but my thoughts are with you and yours
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I have just had some potentially really good news.
As you know my mum has been really poorly with cancer . She has completed her chemo and went for her assessment today. It would appear that when she collapsed in March they gave her 6 weeks to live - 8 weeks at the most eeek: (they tell us this now noooo: )
We were told it was inoperable as the masses on the liver and the lungs were too big and it was about managing the reduction in size.
It would appear that they have blasted the Cancer and now there is not a trace of it visible on their scans eeek: eeek: eeek: They talk of being amazed by this.
They say the concern is now that these cells have now been blasted to micro organisms and they want her to have radium treatment and a brain scan etc but they believe this to be all good and positive.
Feel like celebrating but am cautious not too
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Excellent! cloud9:
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As you say, a cautionary celebration cloud9: Glad that time will be on your side for once! happy088
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Great sounding news Miss D, everything is crossed for you
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That yoga training is coming in handy then lol:
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Fab news cousin!! FIngers crossed
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I think a cautious celebration is in order, they do have some very effective treatment these days.
Good luck to her, and you of course.
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Great news.
Nice to have some for a change.
Am afraid that there is some doom and gloom in my family at the moment, but you have to have hope.
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Excellent news Miss D. Keep positive. happy088
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Excellent news Miss D hope that it continues in the same vein. If you are still too cautious to celebrate I will just have to do so for you. Party001:
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I have been a bit quiet about this because it has not been good news and there is nothing really anyone can say. Mum has deteriorated so quickly in such a short space of time and been suffering so much .
I have just had a call from the hospice that has told me to get myself down there pronto . This is where having a car becomes a god send noooo:
But the train will be fine ...in fact may be quicker in fact on a Friday rush hour.
I am a little bit in pieces sad32: - so may be in need of several large vats of collapso later.
Thank you everyone for all your kindness. She's had such a tough time that I know she is ready to go , but still doesn't help me reverting to a small child that needs her mummy at the thought of her not being there.
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I'm so sorry, my thoughts (and those of all the other pubbers who are too lazy to be up at this time) are with you Miss D....
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Courage Miss D. Big hugs to you. happy100
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If she is ready to go then let her see you with a smile.
I really am so sorry.
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My thoughts are with you.
Keep your chin up.
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It's too late ......she's gone
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So sorry...
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Words are never enough ~ you are in my thoughts and prayers.
For what it is worth this comforted me when my Mum passed on.
They are not dead,
Who leave us this great heritage of remembering joy.
They still live in our hearts,
In the happiness we knew, in the dreams we shared.
They still breathe,
In the lingering fragrance,windblown, from their favourite flowers.
They still smile in the moonlight’s silver,
And laugh in the sunlight’s sparking gold.
They still speak in the echoes of the words we’ve heard them say again and again.
They still move,
In the rhythm of waving grasses, in the dance of the tossing branches.
They are not dead;
Their memory is warm in our hearts, comfort in our sorrow.
They are not apart from us, but part of us,
For love is eternal,
And those we love shall be with us throughout all eternity.
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So sorry to hear your sad news Miss D............. Peter & I send our love...... our thoughts are with you and we will be sending you all the strength we can. Be strong!! xx
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So sorry Miss D.
You will be feeling awful now but from what you have told us of her recent suffering it will be in part a blessing.
Be strong, she will have wanted you to be so. x
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I am so sorry Miss D...
Derek
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Oh dear, poor Miss D. Have a big hug.
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So sorry, big hugs.
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I think it's all been said already Miss D, my thoughts are with you and yours
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Oh Miss D a huge hug is on it's way. It's all been said above but my thoughts are with you and your family. xxx
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I don't think it matters how old you are when a parent dies, it always reverts you to being a kid that wants a hug.
I'm sorry Miss D, it is just so horrid. Big hugs.
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So sorry to hear the news happy100
Words are never enough to soothe the grief and pain of loss but rest assured there are those close and far that think of you and support you through this. Have a big hug from here too happy100
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I can only add my condolences to the previous messages. We all do care. happy100
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Thank you all for your support - it is truly valued cloud9:
I know many here have been through something similar and so know what it feels like , but this is a first for me and I am a bit of a mess right now.
It is unbearable and so painful ...it's that thing about time though I guess....just can't really get my head round that right now .
xxxx
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happy100
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S2N_uvnvGbI
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sorry for for loss........
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Condolences.
Something we all seem to have to go/ have gone through sadly.
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Growler cloud9:
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Miss D's mum's funeral today. I feel a group hug coming on.
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Yes poor thing... our thoughts are with her....
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Double puddings when she and Pasties visit on Thursday cloud9:
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Even triple if she so wishes. Miss D when you see this huge girlie hugs are on their way. xx
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Thank you all
I am all cried out. On my way home. When I get in anyone fancy getting completely smashed ?
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Thank you all
I am all cried out. On my way home. When I get in anyone fancy getting completely smashed ?
I am the" night owl" on here ,lock-in ..????
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Sounds perfick ....I'm buying
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Thank you all
I am all cried out. On my way home. When I get in anyone fancy getting completely smashed ?
As always ;)
happy100
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I don't drink much..... whistle:
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Good to see you in here Miss D, there's a large one behind the bar for you. And I don't mean Barman x
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Voddy and PG aplenty sounds good xx
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Tough day Miss D, will open a cabernet ready. happy100
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Lock in! cloud9:
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still here ,, locked in eeek:
on bms tab............??//
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sorry off to bed now , will sneak out a window goodnight ... surrender:
shit parrots awake ..... evil:
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eeek:
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key is under the mat , good night ....I did not drink anything .... whistle:
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key is under the mat , good night ....I did not drink anything .... whistle:
eeek: eeek:
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Sorry I missed the final hug yesterday. redface:
You must pick yourself up and carry on now, Mum wouldn't have wanted you to dwell on her loss, just remember her and the good times in the past.
happy100
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She is now dealing with the Brat's birthday evil: and preparing herself for her caving trip cloud9: I will give her one for you.
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Sorry I missed the final hug yesterday. redface:
You must pick yourself up and carry on now, Mum wouldn't have wanted you to dwell on her loss, just remember her and the good times in the past.
happy100
Will try but it is a bit tough ...it's that ol time thing I guess. Biggest worry now is my stepdad who is not coping or in good health. Can't be doing another one any time soon noooo: