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Come Inside... => The Snug => Topic started by: Nick on August 18, 2018, 07:08:11 PM
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I have two sisters. Big Sis cannot bear Pink Sis.
Big Sis turns 80 on September 4th. There is a posh family lunch to which Pink Sis is not invited and which she does not know about. A small country hotel has been taken over for the day.
Pink Sis e mailed me today (we have not spoken since March) and reminded me that it is Big Sis's birthday soon and do I want to go halves on some flowers. I sort of agreed.
She then wrote back and said that we must find out if she is at home on that day to receive the delivery. I know she won't be as I will also be at the hotel with everyone except Pink Sis. I cannot disclose this.. facepalm:
I can sense this one will run and run noooo:
Now we have a family funeral in a week or so (elderly cousin) where we will all be, including both sisters.......Will be scared to speak.....
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I have two sisters. Big Sis cannot bear Pink Sis.
Big Sis turns 80 on September 4th. There is a posh family lunch to which Pink Sis is not invited and which she does not know about. A small country hotel has been taken over for the day.
Pink Sis e mailed me today (we have not spoken since March) and reminded me that it is Big Sis's birthday soon and do I want to go halves on some flowers. I sort of agreed.
She then wrote back and said that we must find out if she is at home on that day to receive the delivery. I know she won't be as I will also be at the hotel with everyone except Pink Sis. I cannot disclose this.. facepalm:
I can sense this one will run and run noooo:
Now we have a family funeral in a week or so (elderly cousin) where we will all be, including both sisters.......Will be scared to speak.....
She is going to find out... facepalm:
Honesty is the best policy as my old man used to say... fess up now and take the heat off yourself... whistle:
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More than my life is worth noooo:
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More than my life is worth noooo:
Which isn't much to be fair... whistle:
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horn: horn: horn: horn: horn: horn: horn: horn:
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horn: horn: horn: horn: horn: horn: horn: horn:
redface: redface: redface:
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Why not tell Big Sis to invite Pink Sis? If she doesn't you can still look Pink Sis straight in the eye.
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Are you mad? Pink Sis is a nutter!
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So Big Sis is the sane sibling... rubschin:
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Yes, like me.
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Yes, like me.
happy001 happy001 happy001
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Shrugs:
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Are you mad? Pink Sis is a nutter!
And so you can't control what she says at the funeral
But you can sidestep the scene that could result
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Since she knows nothing of the party she can say nothing about it. But 3 or 4 hours of family chatter might permit something to slip out from others there who are also attending the party, like.
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And if that happens, I will be asked if I am going..............
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And if that happens, I will be asked if I am going..............
Has Big Sis exluded Pink Sis from events before? If this isn't the first time then she may already know or at least suspect something is going on.
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And if that happens, I will be asked if I am going..............
Don't go! :thumbsup:
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And if that happens, I will be asked if I am going..............
Has Big Sis exluded Pink Sis from events before? If this isn't the first time then she may already know or at least suspect something is going on.
When my mum died each Sis organised separate buffet events about half a mile apart. I attended both by cycling furiously from one to the other noooo:
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Why would Pink Sis even bother wanting to send flowers ( joint gift or not) - does she think that you don't talk to her as well ?? It may well be that they will never see eye to eye but expecting you to chose one or the other is naive and immature.
As BM says - honesty is the best policy here. Tell Pink Sis you have been invited to the party and will be going and you assume she has not had an invite due to them not talking - if Pink Sis wants to sort it out with Big Sis that is their business.
This cloak and dagger stuff and trying to remember what you said and to who will inevitably fail. Which will then make you the focus of the 'betrayal' and the anger magnet.
I have 2 brothers - they are both very different. But my brothers don't really speak to each other - this is since my mum's funeral and issues with their respective partners. These are their issues though and not mine. They both know I am keep in contact and see them both but when they ask about the other I refuse to act as any sort of intermediary . They are grown ups allegedly noooo:
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I have 2 brothers - they are both very different. But my brothers don't really speak to each other - this is since my mum's funeral and issues with their respective partners. These are their issues though and not mine. They both know I am keep in contact and see them both but when they ask about the other I refuse to act as any sort of intermediary . They are grown ups allegedly noooo:
There was similar situation in my family. My two elder brothers never got on and this went back to childhood. I used to see and keep in contact with both but I wouldn't get involved. It was their problem, not mine.
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Why would Pink Sis even bother wanting to send flowers ( joint gift or not) - does she think that you don't talk to her as well ?? It may well be that they will never see eye to eye but expecting you to chose one or the other is naive and immature.
As BM says - honesty is the best policy here. Tell Pink Sis you have been invited to the party and will be going and you assume she has not had an invite due to them not talking - if Pink Sis wants to sort it out with Big Sis that is their business.
This cloak and dagger stuff and trying to remember what you said and to who will inevitably fail. Which will then make you the focus of the 'betrayal' and the anger magnet.
I have 2 brothers - they are both very different. But my brothers don't really speak to each other - this is since my mum's funeral and issues with their respective partners. These are their issues though and not mine. They both know I am keep in contact and see them both but when they ask about the other I refuse to act as any sort of intermediary . They are grown ups allegedly noooo:
:thumbsup: the voice of common sense
I must be lucky, me and my two brothers get along well despite a 13 year age span
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Why would Pink Sis even bother wanting to send flowers ( joint gift or not) - does she think that you don't talk to her as well ?? It may well be that they will never see eye to eye but expecting you to chose one or the other is naive and immature.
As BM says - honesty is the best policy here. Tell Pink Sis you have been invited to the party and will be going and you assume she has not had an invite due to them not talking - if Pink Sis wants to sort it out with Big Sis that is their business.
This cloak and dagger stuff and trying to remember what you said and to who will inevitably fail. Which will then make you the focus of the 'betrayal' and the anger magnet.
I have 2 brothers - they are both very different. But my brothers don't really speak to each other - this is since my mum's funeral and issues with their respective partners. These are their issues though and not mine. They both know I am keep in contact and see them both but when they ask about the other I refuse to act as any sort of intermediary . They are grown ups allegedly noooo:
happ096
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Opinions differ. I will report on developments ::)
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Opinions differ. I will report on developments ::)
Popcorn:
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Good luck scared2:
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Good luck scared2:
Gubbed... noooo:
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cussing: cussing: cussing: cussing:
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Funeral is Thursday..................... scared2:
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Funeral is Thursday..................... scared2:
Is that the one where the fight breaks out or the one after because the fight broke out at the funeral before?
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All of those