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Title: A Sudden Death
Post by: Uncle Mort on March 27, 2015, 07:48:11 PM
Yesterday I was contacted via Facebook by my niece asking if I’ve heard from her dad, my brother Len, as she hadn’t and knew that I saw and spoke to him on a regular basis.  I went back to say no and then thought that’s odd as he hadn’t called me to confirm he was coming over for the weekend. After a bit of to and froing and she tried to call the local police to go over to his house to see what’s what. 20mins on hold she gave up, arranged baby sitters and went over with her hubby.
She had keys so went in and as you can guess, found him dead on the floor. Called me, totally distraught. I ended up talking to her husband, police and paramedics called.

Since then it’s been constant phone calls to/from family (I have three other siblings plus various others)

Coroner believes its natural causes but needs to check with the GP before a death certificate can be issued.

Sorry to lay this on you but I feel a need to share it with people a step removed as it were.
Title: Re: A Sudden Death
Post by: apc2010 on March 27, 2015, 07:50:53 PM
Sorry to hear that........sympathies.....
Title: Re: A Sudden Death
Post by: Barman on March 27, 2015, 07:51:37 PM
Yesterday I was contacted via Facebook by my niece asking if I’ve heard from her dad, my brother Len, as she hadn’t and knew that I saw and spoke to him on a regular basis.  I went back to say no and then thought that’s odd as he hadn’t called me to confirm he was coming over for the weekend. After a bit of to and froing and she tried to call the local police to go over to his house to see what’s what. 20mins on hold she gave up, arranged baby sitters and went over with her hubby.
She had keys so went in and as you can guess, found him dead on the floor. Called me, totally distraught. I ended up talking to her husband, police and paramedics called.

Since then it’s been constant phone calls to/from family (I have three other siblings plus various others)

Coroner believes its natural causes but needs to check with the GP before a death certificate can be issued.

Sorry to lay this on you but I feel a need to share it with people a step removed as it were.

So sorry Uncle.... happy100
Title: Re: A Sudden Death
Post by: Nick on March 27, 2015, 07:53:42 PM
Oh Uncle.Your brother and also a whole family to deal with. Awful shock too. What can I say?  My thoughts are with you
Title: Re: A Sudden Death
Post by: Uncle Mort on March 27, 2015, 08:00:47 PM
It's an odd feeling, by rights we would be sitting playing crib now with the footy on in the background.
Title: Re: A Sudden Death
Post by: boogs on March 27, 2015, 08:02:43 PM
My thoughts are with you too Uncle sending you  happy100 and  kisss:

Good you feel able to talk to us ..... 
Title: Re: A Sudden Death
Post by: Misty on March 27, 2015, 08:11:43 PM
I am so sorry Uncle. Obviously, our thoughts are with you at this heartbreaking time, and should you ever need to unload, that is the purpose of sincere friends on the VP, as well you know.

  Our kindest wishes go out to you and your family. x x x x

 
Title: Re: A Sudden Death
Post by: Steve on March 27, 2015, 08:12:33 PM
Awful news for you Uncle and of course his daughter and wider family.  Sounds like he was a good friend as much as a brother.  RIP

Title: Re: A Sudden Death
Post by: Darwins Selection on March 27, 2015, 11:05:33 PM
How awful. I am very sorry for where you find yourself.

I know you won't need telling that your Niece will need the most support after such a trauma.
Title: Re: A Sudden Death
Post by: Miss Demeanour on March 28, 2015, 10:28:51 AM
Oh Unc, How awful .
I bet it just doesn't feel real to anyone right now.
Huge hugs and we all have our bestest listening ears on for when you want to unload.
We also can try and distract you with our usual nonsense.
Be kind to yourself though x

Title: Re: A Sudden Death
Post by: Just One More on March 28, 2015, 12:17:10 PM
So sorry to hear this Uncle. Sincere condolences to you and all your family. Nice to know that although many on here haven't yet met, we regard each other as friends that we can turn to
Title: Re: A Sudden Death
Post by: Uncle Mort on March 28, 2015, 01:36:58 PM
Thanks for all your kind thoughts. Much appreciated.
Title: Re: A Sudden Death
Post by: Pastis on March 28, 2015, 05:25:43 PM
I can only reiterate the comments and feelings above ... very sorry to hear it.
Title: Re: A Sudden Death
Post by: barmisspah? on March 30, 2015, 10:35:04 AM
Hugs.

My father died in January & although he was 87 it was still a shock.
He had a heart attack late on the Wednesday night & was taken to Harefield Hospital,
but at least we were able to be there when they switched off his life support systems midday Thursday.

xxx
Title: Re: A Sudden Death
Post by: apc2010 on March 30, 2015, 10:36:52 AM
Hugs.

My father died in January & although he was 87 it was still a shock.
He had a heart attack late on the Wednesday night & was taken to Harefield Hospital,
but at least we were able to be there when they switched off his life support systems midday Thursday.

xxx

Sorry to hear that.....
Title: Re: A Sudden Death
Post by: Steve on March 30, 2015, 11:07:15 AM
Hugs.

My father died in January & although he was 87 it was still a shock.
He had a heart attack late on the Wednesday night & was taken to Harefield Hospital,
but at least we were able to be there when they switched off his life support systems midday Thursday.

xxx

Sorry to hear that.....
Sorry to hear that too, hope it's going OK for you all Barmisspah.  Never an easy nor quickly got over time. 
Title: Re: A Sudden Death
Post by: barmisspah? on March 30, 2015, 11:10:36 AM
ty

We are just trying to rally around Mum so she doesn't feel too lonely.
Title: Re: A Sudden Death
Post by: Steve on March 30, 2015, 11:15:25 AM
ty

We are just trying to rally around Mum so she doesn't feel too lonely.
Good plan.  That's what we did with my Mum and looking back that helped us too
Title: Re: A Sudden Death
Post by: Uncle Mort on April 27, 2015, 11:48:19 AM
Off to the funeral shortly
Title: Re: A Sudden Death
Post by: Steve on April 27, 2015, 11:54:07 AM
Hope it goes as well as these things can
Title: Re: A Sudden Death
Post by: apc2010 on April 27, 2015, 01:41:46 PM
Hope it goes as well as these things can

Ditto...
Title: Re: A Sudden Death
Post by: Nick on April 27, 2015, 01:45:01 PM
Good luck there Uncle. You can cry if you want to*





















*apologies for any earworm this may have caused  redface:
Title: Re: A Sudden Death
Post by: Darwins Selection on April 27, 2015, 01:58:09 PM
Hope it goes as well as these things can

Ditto...
^^^^^^^^^
Wot they said
Title: Re: A Sudden Death
Post by: Baldy on April 27, 2015, 05:40:46 PM
Hope it goes as well as these things can

Ditto...
^^^^^^^^^
Wot they said

Have a good drink.  Thumbs:
Title: Re: A Sudden Death
Post by: Barman on April 27, 2015, 05:54:18 PM
Good luck there Uncle. You can cry if you want to*





















*apologies for any earworm this may have caused  redface:

 Spank2: Spank2: Spank2:
Title: Re: A Sudden Death
Post by: Nick on April 27, 2015, 06:07:15 PM
 redface: redface:
Title: Re: A Sudden Death
Post by: boogs on April 27, 2015, 06:21:17 PM
Hope it all went as best as these things can Uncle  happy100
Title: Re: A Sudden Death
Post by: Uncle Mort on April 27, 2015, 09:00:36 PM
All went well, good turnout of family and friends and his daughter held it together well. A few tears but plenty of laughs later at the wake as we shared memories and recounted various stories and anecdotes.

Title: Re: A Sudden Death
Post by: Steve on April 27, 2015, 09:02:36 PM
All went well, good turnout of family and friends and his daughter held it together well. A few tears but plenty of laughs later at the wake as we shared memories and recounted various stories and anecdotes.
:thumbsup:

That's how funerals should be



Title: Re: A Sudden Death
Post by: Uncle Mort on April 27, 2015, 09:20:17 PM
I think I've talked to my niece more in the past month than in the previous 10 years. She's a really good egg and just like her dad. He was really proud of her, shame he never really told that.
Title: Re: A Sudden Death
Post by: apc2010 on April 27, 2015, 09:53:44 PM
All went well, good turnout of family and friends and his daughter held it together well. A few tears but plenty of laughs later at the wake as we shared memories and recounted various stories and anecdotes.

 Thumbs:
Title: Re: A Sudden Death
Post by: Barman on April 28, 2015, 05:51:46 AM
All went well, good turnout of family and friends and his daughter held it together well. A few tears but plenty of laughs later at the wake as we shared memories and recounted various stories and anecdotes.

Wonderful!  Thumbs:
Title: Re: A Sudden Death
Post by: Darwins Selection on April 28, 2015, 09:06:48 AM
All went well, good turnout of family and friends and his daughter held it together well. A few tears but plenty of laughs later at the wake as we shared memories and recounted various stories and anecdotes.

Wonderful!  Thumbs:

That is how it should be "A celebration of their life" and all that. Not always easy but better by far than the all-in-black whispering and sobbing kind.

When I go, I want a knees-up that everybody will remember for the rest of their days.

Perhaps I should start selling tickets now? 

£100 per mourner seems fair. . .  rubschin:
Title: Re: A Sudden Death
Post by: apc2010 on April 28, 2015, 09:08:59 AM
All went well, good turnout of family and friends and his daughter held it together well. A few tears but plenty of laughs later at the wake as we shared memories and recounted various stories and anecdotes.

Wonderful!  Thumbs:

That is how it should be "A celebration of their life" and all that. Not always easy but better by far than the all-in-black whispering and sobbing kind.

When I go, I want a knees-up that everybody will remember for the rest of their days.

Perhaps I should start selling tickets now? 

£100 per mourner seems fair. . .  rubschin:

Well it;s about 100 for a moaner here........ rubschin:
Title: Re: A Sudden Death
Post by: Steve on April 28, 2015, 09:29:32 AM
All went well, good turnout of family and friends and his daughter held it together well. A few tears but plenty of laughs later at the wake as we shared memories and recounted various stories and anecdotes.

Wonderful!  Thumbs:

That is how it should be "A celebration of their life" and all that. Not always easy but better by far than the all-in-black whispering and sobbing kind.

When I go, I want a knees-up that everybody will remember for the rest of their days.

Perhaps I should start selling tickets now? 

£100 per mourner seems fair. . .  rubschin:
I'm sure those turnip futures I found in a skip would cover it

Would expect at least one of those Chinese funeral strippers though